This is the final blog in my series exploring the transitions we work through when change occurs.
My go-to resource for this series is author William Bridge’s book Managing Transitions – Making the most of change.
Let’s set the stage with a quick recap: Bridges (2003) outlines three stages of transition: the ending, the neutral zone and the new beginning. Before we get to the new beginning, lets revisit a couple of key takeaways from Transitions, Parts I and II:
Endings are about something going away, and when something is gone, its not unusual to experience grief.
The neutral zone is the place you find yourself after you have identified an ending. It’s that place between two somewheres where uncertainty reigns and it can be a difficult place to find yourself. With the right mindset though, it can also be a place where creativity thrives.
What is (or isn’t) a New Beginning, and how do you know when you’re there?
Bridges (2003) differentiates “starts” from “beginnings”. Starts are the external situation, the thing that has changed such as a new job, or a different role, a technology rollout, or a move to a new city. Beginnings on the other hand are internal – they are all about you, your behaviors and mindsets.
Here is an example of what a new beginning might look like when you begin a new job. The “start” is the new job itself. That first day or week when your excitement alternates with unease as you navigate your new surroundings, begin to understand the culture and establish new relationships.
Those moments when you can acknowledge that you are making a valued contribution, and you’re open to new learning and new ways of doing things…well, that’s your new beginning. So, a new beginning has two parts - a well-planned start and a new or different way of being.
“Beginnings are strange things. People want them to happen but fear them at the same time.”
William Bridges
Some beginnings can pose an exciting challenge, others require determination and courage. Either way, it is critical to still set realistic expectations as beginnings aren’t always a slam dunk. There are a number of factors to consider:
A beginning means the end has really ended, and that may re-surface some feelings you thought had been resolved.
Not every new beginning works out as planned; some don’t work out at all.
The new beginning might remind you of other beginnings that have failed to flourish.
The unknown is now known, and it’s time for you to take action.
These factors are not intended to deter or discourage you. I included them so if they come up for you, you can face them head on. That’s what a coach does – provides the right type of support to achieve the results you’re after.
Some final thoughts.
Don’t rush to your new beginning before you’ve allowed yourself to fully experience the neutral zone.
Be consistent about how you message your new beginning (to yourself and others). Create clarity around what it is, and what it isn’t. Write it down, say it out loud, read and repeat often.
Mind your self-care. Acknowledge even the smallest signs of success - not everyone will be on board and some may not even notice your new beginning.
Then celebrate. You’ve earned it.
